Not all guys watch porn, and I wish guys would stop saying that because it’s not true. If this is something that really bothers you, you shouldn’t just suck it up and move on, especially if it’s something that is going to be a reoccurring problem. The problem with porn is that it becomes addicting, and some people make it a part of their daily routine. Your insecurities won’t get any better if you constantly feel like your boyfriend is going to be watching porn. So your best solution is to have a open honest conversation about it with him. Express your feelings, tell him why it hurt you, etc, etc. Communication is key and for you two to go on without this being a problem in the future, you two need to talk. Honesty is everything, it’s the basis of a strong foundation. Be honest with him and let him be honest with you and then set some boundaries. <3
Why does love fade, she asks? Well I don’t really think love fades, I think we as people fade and with that goes the feelings we had for others. Love is love, it’s the same feeling, love doesn’t hurt you, people hurt you, that’s the difference. You see like everything else in life, we get used to something, it does not seem exciting to us anymore, and there lies the problem. Our love for someone fades because love needs constant feeding, constant boosting, livening up from time to time. We get in such a routine in our lives and we just let things go by, but unless we do something to change that routine our love for people will fade.
To prevent love from fading, we have to be less serious, we need to laugh more, joke more, cuddle more, kiss more, talk more all of which cost nothing. People need to understand that through the stages of their relationship, the love is going to change. It’s going to be a little less, a little more, but it will never be consistently one level. Every once in a while love needs a boost, it doesn’t need to cost loads of money, being together is what is important and if people only took the time to do this a little more often, then their lives would not become a fading love. We need to take the time to rekindle ourselves and our love, for then it will not fade but only become stronger. <3
I caught my boyfriend of 3 years looking at porn. I'm pretty insecure about myself already, but I tried to let it go. He was genuinely sorry but kept saying "it's a guy thing and all guys do it". I feel stupid for feeling hurt... should I just suck it up and move on? :/
Can you dance?
I’m Spanish, dancing is in my blood lol especially when it comes to dancing to Spanish music. I’m not sure if you’re familiar with Merengue, Bachata or Salsa but those kind of styles I can dance very well. In Salsa I’m a beginner though, the footwork is complicated and it’s something I’m learning. I’m actually looking for a partner to take Salsa lessons with me, so if you know of anybody in the NJ area who’s down to learn Salsa with me, let me know! I’ll pay for the both of us. <3
Every day, every week, every year, every good morning and every goodnight is how often I want to be cuddled with you. 365 days, 8765.81277 hours, 525948.7662 minutes in a year and I still wouldn’t want to leave your side. When your arms are wrapped around me, and my arms are wrapped around you, I never question, I just know. You see, cuddling is a special form of intimacy to me, not the foreplay type of cuddling or cuddling after sexual activity but the ”I love to be with you’ type of cuddling. It’s the perfect way to express your most intimate feeling, it’s when your most vulnerable but so in love. You need to have intimacy and affection, to have a strong relationship. We have to take time out of our stressful lives to switch off the tv and the games and have a cuddling session with the one we love. There are many ways to connect with a partner but never underestimate the importance of cuddling. <3
Everyone’s story is more complicated than it seems. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. It’s not always the tears that measure a person’s pain, sometimes it’s the smile they fake. Not all scars show. Not all wounds heal by themselves. You usually can’t see the pain that someone feels. So please don’t judge a person negatively for their past or feelings without a full understanding of their situation. Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow. And if you currently know someone who is going through a dark time, the most important thing you can do for them is to be present, remind them that they’re not alone. Remind them that no matter how bizarre or embarrassed or pathetic they may feel about their situation, there is someone in their life who has dealt with similar emotions and who wants to help. Let them know that when they hear themselves say, “I am alone,” it’s just their insecurities trying to sell them a lie. Let them know that although you won’t necessarily be able to pull them out of the dark place they’re in, the light that will spill in when they let you enter will at least show them which way the door is. <3