No matter how much we try to keep up with what society believes is beautiful, we all have imperfections. When we look in the mirror and we see something that we don’t like, those are the moments when we should love ourselves most, those so called imperfections make us real, alive, and grounded in a way that we too can admire beauty in others. Most of us feel that there is something on ourselves that we would change if given the opportunity. But why I ask? Our flaws make us unique in our own way.
Be gentle and kind to yourself inside and out, be accepting of flaws and know that it is what rests in the depth of your soul that people truly see. It shines and glows, it can be felt, it is what makes you beautiful. Have you ever met a not so society accepted person, but as you got to know them, you catch of glimpse of their beautiful soul, finding them totally irresistible? This is the secret, you have to work from the inside out.
Truly see the beauty within, this is no cliche, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. Look in that mirror and look at yourself, and say I am so beautiful. Be thankful that you are alive and stop dwelling on what you think you should be. It is so important that you learn the secrets to feeling comfortable in your own skin. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life not being happy. Each one of us is a unique individual who deserves to be respected. So realize that you are special and beautiful, who gives a shit about what society says. <3
There is a big difference between having sex and making love. Some will say, “No, there one and the same”. You might hear, ” You can’t have one with out the other”. Then there is always. “Who cares, the out come is the same.” I believe there is a difference in my opinion and a big one. Sex takes little thought and little time. Sex is like having no emotional ties or commitments, you can move on to the next person if you wish. You fall into this pattern of “Lets just do it and get it over with”, attitude and nothing else matters. Where is the love, the spontaneity, the passion? Most of the time people are only thinking of them of themselves and their needs.
Making love is like a painting a beautiful masterpiece. Your creation takes time, thought, effort, and love of labor, not labor of love. You put your heart into it and pour your soul all over it. It’s a spiritual ride, two souls connecting, two thoughts forming into one. A journey into ecstasy. Your mind is being made love too as well as your body, heart and soul. It takes sweet, sweet time. There is no hurrying, no rushing to fulfillment. Making love is like eating a fine meal. You savor every bit of it. Each touch is a little piece of heaven. You don’t rush through, you enjoy the delectable different spices you taste in each bite. You enjoy caressing her lips with yours as you kiss.
To common we associate sex with making love, lumping them together, “Well if I’m having sex, then I’m making love to my partner”. If you haven’t been taught the difference between the two, then you are going to have that type of thinking mentality. Sex is, one, two, three, its over. Making love is four, five, six, we go on for hours. Sex is, “OK, that’s all?” Making love is, snuggling up with your partner afterward and feeling as if you’ve died and “gone to heaven”. Complete, absolutely sated. You drift off into a peaceful bliss knowing your in love and it wasn’t just sex. That’s the difference, it’s an emotional bonding, not just a casual occurrence.
Accept the truth.
If you’ve been asking the same questions for a long time, yet are still stuck, it’s probably not that you haven’t been given the answers, but that you don’t like the answers you were given. Remember, it takes a great deal of courage to admit that something needs to change, and a lot more courage still, to accept the responsibility for making the change happen.
I don’t think anything would be more romantic than a night out at the beach. I think it’s the ideal place to really go and cherish each others presence. It’s quiet, the mood is perfect, the weather is just right, there’s no distractions. Just imagine how amazingly beautiful you’d look as you would sit down and admire the scenery. Imagine how the world would look as you open your eyes in amazement, that such a night can be so perfect. I can imagine walking on the sand with you, feeling as if we’re walking over clouds one step at a time, admiring each others time and words. Imagine hearing the waves play their melody as we converse and get to know one another. I’m not trying to sweep you off your feet, and or impress you. I’m not trying to replace what anyone else has done or how anyone else has made you feel. I’m just being me my love, I just simply want you to be free, free from hate and depression and sorrow, tears and everything that can possibly make you sad. I want you to feel like you can trust me with all of your heart. I want to see you use that beautiful smile everyday. <3
Put in the effort.
In life you are either a passenger or a pilot, it’s your choice. If you want something, work for it. Do what it takes, not what is easy. It will hurt. It will take time. It will require dedication. It will require willpower. You will need to make healthy decisions. It requires sacrifice. You will need to push your body to its max. There will be temptation. But, I promise you, when you reach your goal, it will be worth it.