It’s a tough thing to accept, but maybe he is not the type of guy you thought he was.
Love yourself first and don’t let anyone take you for granted. They don’t deserve you if they don’t treat you the way you treat them.


Sometimes, holding hands is enough, sometimes holding on by a pinky is enough, but sometimes holding on does more damage than good. I was going for a casual walk today when I saw a couple holding hands, I saw some people walking together, another guy was arguing with his girl, some girl was kissing her boyfriend and it made we wonder, are these people happy? Because as many of us would like to believe that relationships will withstand the test of time, the reality is that some end for one reason or another. It’s so sad to see something that’s so strong, something that’s so tight, just lose its grip. Like seeing a couple holding hands, and then seeing them so far away from each other the week after, it makes me wonder. What happened in between that time that made them just change their mind about each other? Where is the love, what is ever there?

I think we sometimes get so caught up in things that we lose sight, we don’t see anything that is ahead of us. And when that happens, it makes it impossible to move forward when things are over. I think we have to get the past and sometimes the present behind us in order to see what is ahead of us. Heartbreak is something we all experience, it’s a part of life. Sometimes in life, we think that the only way to get rid of problems or make them less painful is to ignore them and pretend like they’re not even there and that’s worse. We tend to hide behind our emotions instead of facing them. When we do that we bottle up all of these feelings of sadness, all the negative thoughts, all the pain, and sooner or later these problems will begin to spread inside of us. We have to set them free and let go of that grip. For some holding hands is enough, and for some holding on by a pinky just isn’t. <3

Anonymous asked:
My girlfriend wants to become a stripper.. but I don't want her to. She told me that if I really did love her, I would support her. Don't know what, any advice?

Well there’s only two ways this situation can go. Either she becomes a stripper against your advice. Or she doesn’t do it for the sake of the relationship and you. If she chooses to become one, you will have to think about the relationship and where you see it heading. Some will say exotic dancing is a profession, not a social experience, and in the nature of the business, she is selling a fantasy to her clients for profit and that’s all. And while that can be true, it will take a certain type of person to be okay with something like this, and if you feel like you will never be that person, you need to let her know how you really really feel.

It’s also important to know that just because you love her, doesn’t mean you have to support her in doing something you feel is not good for her and your relationship. You should explain that to her. Some of the people that I love deeply do things I am not okay with. And it doesn’t mean I don’t love them, or that I won’t be there for them, it just simply means I don’t support what they do. Stripping is a serious thing, and I know it can be fast money but ends don’t always justify the means, and there’s a lot of things money can’t buy. Maybe she doesn’t realize that your relationship may not survive if she chooses this as a job.

In either case, no matter how trusting a person is, an occupation like this will undermine that trust because it will weaken the physical bond that you two have shared. Once those things are compromised, everything else will go with it. I know people will say love is everything, but the truth is, sometimes love is not enough. And if you two cannot see eye to eye on issues that are important to both of you, you may have to reevaluate the relationship. Be honest with your feelings and thoughts. At the end of the day, she makes her own decisions, your only decision lays in doing what’s best for you, even if it means going on with life without her. <3

Never make a decision when you’re feeling lonely. Desperate actions lead to regret.
A relationship is between you and the person you’re with. Stop letting outsiders plant their opinions in something they’re not involved in. Focus on the person you love, not the people trying to tear you apart.
Sometimes the best things in life are the things you’ll never get. But that’s okay because the things you have are the things someone else will never get. Be thankful. Just because you have a dream doesn’t mean you aren’t already living one.


Lately I have been thinking about a lot of things, about life and time and love and everything else in this world. It’s crazy how the speed of life moves so fast, one moment you think you’ve got it all together, and then a week later back down you go. Ever wonder how you got to where you are? Where did the last ten years of your life go? Does it all seem like a blur to you? One minute you’re learning how to tie your shoe, the next minute you’re on your way to school, before you know it, you’re driving, then you’re getting married, and having a few children, it’s crazy. Sometimes I think we are so focused on large big goals that we always fail to realize the small things. We forget to take notice probably the majority of the time because we live in a society that is fast. Impatience is a quality we love to thrive on.

When you live too fast, you pass by many things and you take it all for granted. We live on such a fast track, that when we actually do stop for a minute or two, we are sometimes dumbfounded. “How did I get here” runs through your mind, “I can’t believe the year is almost over” you know? Please know that every day is special. It could be the happiest day of your life, or your last. Knowing that, why not make your days count? We always rush to make others happy, but let’s make ourselves happy. Take the time to support yourself. You will not only feel physically better, but mentally better as well. Take the time to tell people close to you, that you love them; take the time to start that thing you always wanted to do. Take time out for you, because we have one life to live and you don’t want to miss out on it. 

Anonymous asked:
After my last break up I've been scared to love, to let people in. I know I shouldn't be, but my past relationship has somewhat scared me from letting anyone in.

Despite your heartbreak, don’t become bitter and jaded about love. Though it may be hard to imagine right now, you will be thankful for those  experiences and lessons you gathered from your last relationship. I personally am very excited to fall in love again and you should be to. I’m excited for that first kiss with that future someone and you should be to. I can’t wait to make a girl feel special, loved, and wanted. It’s impossible for me to imagine life without having someone by my side and even though it may take some time, I know that person for me is out there, just like they’re out there for you.

Don’t give up, don’t let fear stop you from being happy. All of those feelings I’ve described are all worth waiting for and feeling again. Take baby steps, love gently, trust cautiously, open up slowly, let someone break down your wall brick by brick until there is nothing left. Love is out there, and it’s not something you really have to look hard for, just be patient and let it come to you. You’ll find someone who will understand what you’ve been through, who will get you, who will love you for you, who will not rush you, but be patient, understanding and caring. You just have to give yourself another chance to get there. <3

Anonymous asked:
Would it be immature to unfollow an ex boyfriend on social media like instagram and twitter?

It depends on why you’re choosing to unfollow them in the first place. If you’re unfollowing them because you had a bad break up, didn’t end in good terms, don’t want to relive the memories, feel as if looking at their page and updates will hinder your growth, then no it’s not immature. But if you’re unfollowing them because your new boyfriend says so, or he tells you that you have to because he doesn’t like it for no apparent reason, well then that’s immature and he needs to grow up. Social media doesn’t ruin relationships, people ruin relationships. If you have no problem with your ex and are on good terms, don’t unfollow him. <3

Anonymous asked:
Is it wrong that I want to do more than just cuddle and kiss with my girlfriend? We've been dating for 6 months and it's just getting boring. I want to advance our sexual life but she wants to take it slow.

It’s not wrong, but if you can’t enjoy the simple things with her like talking, kissing and cuddling, maybe the reason you want to go further is not for the right ones. Loving someone deeply is certainly a blissful experience and physical intimacy certainly adds sparks to the relationship but letting things happen in the right moment makes them more beautiful. Don’t rush something for the sake of doing it, let it happen when the time is right.

You need to know what it is to love her for the simple things. So if you really want to make her smile, hug her like it will be the last time you do, cuddle with her like its the last time you will, kiss her until she feels shivers down her spine. If you love her, and if you’re in this for the long run, you’ll respect her decision to take things slow. Build your relationship on the right reasons and I promise you’ll forever be creating beautiful everlasting sexual and everyday memories with her. <3

There comes a time when you get sick of trying. You’re sick of getting the same response, the same silence and the same feeling. You’re not giving up, just moving on.
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