As you get older, things change, people come and go and every choice that you make defines what person you’re gonna turn into. Every once in a while, you need to look at yourself, and ask if you like the person you’re becoming.
That’s what it takes to build a long lasting relationship. It’s an effort put in within two people. It’s a “We” effort not a “Me” effort. Someone asked me earlier, if doing all of the work in a relationship while the other person just benefits wrong? I would say yes it’s wrong. It should be a equal amount of effort and support to make anything last. Once love is established in a relationship, actively expressing love to each other will maintain and increase the loving feelings in each other. If you are aiming for a long lasting relationship you need to commit as a whole to each others emotional well-being, even when it isn’t easy. Understanding each others mutual feelings is a must. Strive to understand and respect your differences. Share and clarify your differing perspectives, and try to see from each other’s point of view.
You have to be there for each other through thick and thin. Through the happy, sad, and bad times no matter what. Be willing to provide hugs, kisses, and emotional comfort in all circumstances. Be each others emotion support in time of need. Trust is key to making a long lasting relationship work. Really try to get to know each other and build a connection between you that’s strong and enduring. Make an effort to see each other whenever you can, but also know when to give each other space. You should treat your relationship as something special, personal and private between you two, out of respect for each other. Never go off and talk bad about your relationship. A relationship is between two people, you and partner, not anyone else.
Striving for happiness and love should be the number one focus. Whatever you can do to improve your relationship or make it healthier, do it. You shouldn’t be embarrassed in expressing yourself to your partner. Become close and really comfortable with each other physically and emotionally. And please try not to compare your relationship to anyone else’s. Every couple makes their own love rules, love agreements, love habits, love routines, and so on. Just focus on you two and making your relationship the best that it can be. Share every part of yourself, your heart, mind and soul, not just your body. Include each other in every decision. One’s worry is the other’s, because both will be affected by it. I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn’t matter what you do, or who you are, or where you live. There are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together. <3
If you loved the wrong one so much, and felt so greatly about them, just imagine how incredible you will feel when you meet the right one. Just because there is an end, it doesn’t mean there will never be a new beginning. ♥
If he’s not calling you. If he’s not texting you. If he’s looking for other girls to date. If he’s putting you second. If he’s not taking you out on dates. If he keeps bouncing around your questions. If he’s not asking you to be is girlfriend. Then it’s because he doesn’t want to be with you. Even if he’s kissing you. Even if you are sleeping with him. Even if he’s cuddling with you at night. Even if he tells you what you want to hear. Even if he gets jealous when you talk about other guys. If he wanted to be with you, then he would be with you. But he’s not… and that should tell you all you really need to know. <3
This is my cover to John Legend’s - All Of Me. It’s been a while since I’ve made a cover. I’m not really a singer, I’m more of a piano player but I really love this song. My friend told me to post this up a long time ago, and I forgot, so here you go. <3
Sometimes you have to look at the positives more than the negatives. Maybe the reason why the relationship didn’t last was because if it had lasted any longer you would had been more broken. Look at the situation, and weigh out the pros and cons. Whatever happened, it was for your own good.
Have you ever felt pressured by your parents to do something you didn't want to?
No and I thank God for blessing me with the parents I have. I have never felt pressured to do anything I didn’t want to. One would think coming from a Christian background and having family members who are pastors and having my own father who is a youth pastor would be crazy but my parents have always been really chill and down to earth.
I have never felt judged, pressured, forced, etc, etc to do anything. They never told me what to believe, they have never said you have to do this, this way, they never told me what path to take in terms of my faith, what to wear, what career to pursue, who to date, etc, etc, so it’s always been good in terms of them just letting me be me.
I mean sure they give me their advice and when I need their opinions on certain things that I feel like their input will help I ask without any worry but other than that, I’ve pretty much made all of the decisions in terms of my adult life by myself. It feels good to know that they’ve always had my back though and I know if I ever need anything, I can go to them at anytime. <3
I really wonder how many people would give him a smile, or even a penny, or how many people would not even do both? Making someone’s day by giving them a smile is one of the sweetest things someone can do. We fail to see that some people are lonely or feel like everything around them is falling apart, and by sharing a smile with someone all their problems can disappear even if just for a moment, or it can gain them a perspective on their life and improve their situation. Never under estimate the power of a smile, a smile is free and should be shared as often as possible. It’s one of the best gifts that you can give to someone. When people smile a signal is sent to their brain which tells them that they’re happy. Even a smile which is at first forced has value.
Once you begin smiling more, people will smile right back at you, and put you in a happy frame of mind.You can create an abundance of happiness in your life by being grateful for what you have, thankful for what happens to you that’s good, and by refraining from being complacent. Be optimistic, and concentrate on the happiness of others. Next time you feel like frowning again or think that there’s nothing to smile about, consider the health benefits of your actions. Give yourself a smile in the mirror to start your day off on a positive note, smile at a stranger on the streets, or share a smile with someone you love. It will improve your mood, your life, your health and your love . <3.
It’s okay to move on.
Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us to. When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. Good things take time. Stay patient and stay positive. Everything is going to come together; maybe not immediately, but eventually.