Be someone who makes someone else look forward to tomorrow.
People miss you more when they see how much happier you are without them.


“God has a plan for your life.” I heard that so much growing up that it really did become a part of me. I believed it then, and I believe it now. Thankfully I have a much better understanding of it now than I did then. I used to believe that God had one plan for me. Just one. That there was one path for my life to follow and that if I messed it up then I was doomed to live a pointless life, a life that God merely tolerated because I am his child and he has an obligation to keep his word to love me. That meant that I would have to figure out exactly what his plan for me was, and then execute it perfectly. Talk about pressure right? but thankfully, now I understand how wrong that line of thinking was.

The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope, and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11. This verse of scripture tells me two things that I find encouraging: 1) that he has plans for me. Plural. As in more than one, and 2) that they are good. “…Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven…” Mathew 6:10. And to me that means that nothing in my life is without meaning and purpose, even the ugly stuff. I may not understand it or how it works, but that doesn’t make it any less true. “…but the plans of the Lord stand firm…” Psalm 33:11 “….what I have planned, that will I do…”  Isaiah 46:11

God’s plans always come to pass. His plans cannot be thwarted. I may not know the plans he has for me, but as I walk in faith I know that I will live his plan for me. I may take a detour along the way; I may mess up and get distracted for a time. I may rush things and get out ahead of him or drag my feet and lag behind. But in the end I’ll be where I’m supposed to be, and I’ll have accomplished his will for me. Maybe that’s why it is impossible to please God without faith: we start fearing that we have missed his plan so we stop moving forward. We get mired in our mistakes, our lies, our fears and, instead of taking the necessary steps to set everything right we just stay there, acting as if we don’t know what we need to do. Let’s act, and do what we need to do. <3

Anonymous asked:
Will I ever find the right person even having such high expectations? Is there such thing as having too high of expectations? Every single relationship I've been in, I always pin point or scrutinize the little things and end up breaking their heart. I don't know if I'm just being a perfectionist or if it's just them. Please help. It really ends up hurting me in the end.

I don’t think it’s your expectations getting in the way, I think it’s your need to look for everything that is wrong instead of everything that is right. Expectations are fine, as long as they’re kept with in a real reality. I think you’re looking for a perfect, fit every check mark ideal kind of man, and I’m not saying he’s not out there, I’m sure he is, the only problem is he’s carrying many faults, he won’t be perfect and if you can’t get the past the little things you may not like, you won’t be happy. I’m not telling you to settle for anyone, but if you don’t try to change your perspective on what really matters, you won’t find the right person.

Not too long ago I came across this quote and I think it pretty much sums up what I think. “I don’t think people are meant to be by themselves. That’s why if you find someone you actually care about, it’s important to let go of the little things. Even if you can’t let go all the way. Because nothing sucks more than being all alone.” No matter how many people are around.” I love it because it’s not saying you shouldn’t have expectations, it’s saying no one is perfect. And when you’re in a relationship with someone they’re are going to be things you’re not going to necessarily love, but if you can learn how to let go of the little imperfect things, and learn how to love the perfect parts of them, you can be happy. <3

Look closely. The beautiful things about someone may be small.
When you start seeing your worth, you’ll find it harder to stay around people who don’t.
Anonymous asked:
I should have listened to you, I should've just took your advice. Thank you for listening to me then, thank you for just being there for everyone who needs help. You are amazing. You've been a great help but I knew it was a decision I had to make on my own, now I've wasted 2 years of my life, following my wants, but just ended into an emotionally and physically abusive relationship, it took me 2 years to let go. Now, I'm not me anymore, I'm just broken & picking up the pieces.

You did what you thought was best for you at the time, don’t let the “what ifs” get to you. If you try to put the past behind you and keep moving forward, and realize that the you before isn’t the you now, you won’t feel broken. Leave the past where it belongs. The past is full of your worst moments, times of your life that crippled your confidence and self-esteem. And although these moments will keep coming back to you, you need to remember that they happened to somebody else, not the person you are right now.

Stay focused, you have to keep pushing, and putting the pieces back together. Don’t live your life in sorrow, carry your pain, understand it and then, when the time is right, set it free. Be the person you were meant to be and remember to learn from your mistakes but don’t let yourself drown in them. What matters is not the first, but the last chapter of our lives, which shows how well we ran the race. So smile, pick yourself up, believe, and love all over again. Life is good, enjoy it while you can dear. I’m always here for you. <3

Don’t feel sad over someone who gave up on you, feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would have never given up on them.
Don’t let your struggle become your identity.
If somebody likes me, I want them to like the real me, not what they think I am. And I don’t want them to carry it around inside. I want them to show me, so I can feel it, too. I want them to be able to do whatever they want around me.


I think good friends are hard to come by. Like real, always be there for you, tell you how it is, ride or die friends, they’re so hard to come by. Everyone says they’re your friend, but it’s not until something really goes down when you start seeing just who you’re true friends are. To me a good friend does not always agree with what you say. They have their own opinions and are comfortable enough with you to voice them when they feel necessary. A bad friend will agree with what you say most of the time, but will spend more time telling other people how wrong you are. A good friend will be there as much as they can through the bad times in your life. They will offer you an ear that listens or a shoulder to cry on. A good friend will help to find solutions or options, they will never judge or point fingers.

A good friend will have the ability to be happy for you when good things happen in your life, even if their own life is not going well. A good friend will celebrate with you. They will offer solutions and will tell you the truth about everything. A good friend will trust your judgment and hope that everything works out for you. To me, trust is a big thing when it comes to friendship. If you trust somebody in a way where you know they would never do anything to purposely hurt you, both emotionally and physically, then it’s probably a good thing you keep this person in your life. If a person is truthful with you even at times where you know they’re right but they don’t say exactly what you want to hear, then they are a friend. Friendship to me is more a matter of giving than taking. Loving unconditionally and caring genuinely, those are the foundations on which real friendships can be successfully built, sustained and cherished for a lifetime. <3

Four very simple/important things you should do on a first date.
  1. Put your cell phone away. In a wold where everybody is on their phones, texting people, updating their Instagram and FB, on a first date or any date for that matter it’s rude. I used to do this all the time, until one day it got done to me and I hated it. I now make an honest effort to put my cell in my pocket and keep it there. You’re on a date with your girlfriend/boyfriend, not with your phone. And whatever it is you need to do, it can wait. Sometimes we need to put the distractions away and just be in the moment. Do this, they will notice and trust me they will appreciate it.
  2. Make eye contact. I can’t stress this enough. I hate having conversations with people who are looking down, sideways, up, are checking their phone, etc, etc. Having eye contact not only implies the idea of genuine interest, but it lets them know you’re paying attention. Once someone looks into your eyes either on a shy glance or an honest to goodness direct look it means that they want to know more about you. Don’t be rude by making them feel as if they’re boring you with conversation. Make eye contact and make them feel important.
  3. Pay for the bill. Now I know not everyone will agree with this and I’m not saying girls can’t pay for the bill, but guys if you’re the one taking her out, especially on a first date, pay. I find it to be a gentleman thing to do, and it looks rude to have her see the check and either have her pay for what she ate, or have her pay half. You don’t have to pay for every date and as time goes on you’ll find a balance but on the first date, don’t even let her look at the bill. I’m the kind of guy who’s not worried about the bill. If I’m taking you out, it’s because I can afford where we’re going. Looking at the bill and worrying about who’s going to pay looks distasteful, don’t do it.
  4. Be true to you. It’s essential that you remain true to yourself. Don’t try to go over the top on the first date and make yourself to seem bigger than you are. Being someone else gets old fast; and the the truth will eventually come out anyway. Don’t try to impress them to the point where you can’t even keep up with yourself. If you’re real, honest, respectful, show compassion, are genuine, trustworthy, make them feel comfortable and appreciated, treat them with the love and respect they deserve, they’ll be yours for a long time. So just be real, and keep it simple, people like simple.
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