“God has a plan for your life.” I heard that so much growing up that it really did become a part of me. I believed it then, and I believe it now. Thankfully I have a much better understanding of it now than I did then. I used to believe that God had one plan for me. Just one. That there was one path for my life to follow and that if I messed it up then I was doomed to live a pointless life, a life that God merely tolerated because I am his child and he has an obligation to keep his word to love me. That meant that I would have to figure out exactly what his plan for me was, and then execute it perfectly. Talk about pressure right? but thankfully, now I understand how wrong that line of thinking was.
The bible says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope, and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11. This verse of scripture tells me two things that I find encouraging: 1) that he has plans for me. Plural. As in more than one, and 2) that they are good. “…Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven…” Mathew 6:10. And to me that means that nothing in my life is without meaning and purpose, even the ugly stuff. I may not understand it or how it works, but that doesn’t make it any less true. “…but the plans of the Lord stand firm…” Psalm 33:11 “….what I have planned, that will I do…” Isaiah 46:11
God’s plans always come to pass. His plans cannot be thwarted. I may not know the plans he has for me, but as I walk in faith I know that I will live his plan for me. I may take a detour along the way; I may mess up and get distracted for a time. I may rush things and get out ahead of him or drag my feet and lag behind. But in the end I’ll be where I’m supposed to be, and I’ll have accomplished his will for me. Maybe that’s why it is impossible to please God without faith: we start fearing that we have missed his plan so we stop moving forward. We get mired in our mistakes, our lies, our fears and, instead of taking the necessary steps to set everything right we just stay there, acting as if we don’t know what we need to do. Let’s act, and do what we need to do. <3
I think good friends are hard to come by. Like real, always be there for you, tell you how it is, ride or die friends, they’re so hard to come by. Everyone says they’re your friend, but it’s not until something really goes down when you start seeing just who you’re true friends are. To me a good friend does not always agree with what you say. They have their own opinions and are comfortable enough with you to voice them when they feel necessary. A bad friend will agree with what you say most of the time, but will spend more time telling other people how wrong you are. A good friend will be there as much as they can through the bad times in your life. They will offer you an ear that listens or a shoulder to cry on. A good friend will help to find solutions or options, they will never judge or point fingers.
A good friend will have the ability to be happy for you when good things happen in your life, even if their own life is not going well. A good friend will celebrate with you. They will offer solutions and will tell you the truth about everything. A good friend will trust your judgment and hope that everything works out for you. To me, trust is a big thing when it comes to friendship. If you trust somebody in a way where you know they would never do anything to purposely hurt you, both emotionally and physically, then it’s probably a good thing you keep this person in your life. If a person is truthful with you even at times where you know they’re right but they don’t say exactly what you want to hear, then they are a friend. Friendship to me is more a matter of giving than taking. Loving unconditionally and caring genuinely, those are the foundations on which real friendships can be successfully built, sustained and cherished for a lifetime. <3