Anonymous asked:
My boyfriend and I fight often. He usually fights over me hanging out with my friends and not coming over to see him. I'm just tired of all this and I would wonder is this what I want? If this is what I would have in future? What should I do.. :/

10 questions to ask yourself before ending your relationship.

  1. Are you guys still physically attracted to each other? 
  2. Does your pride come in the way of your happiness in this relationship? 
  3. Do you both love spending time together like before? 
  4. Is there enough intimacy in the relationship? 
  5. Does being in this relationship make you feel happy about yourself? 
  6. Do you feel emotionally satisfied in the relationship? 
  7. Are you going to regret ending things and will you miss your partner? 
  8. Would venting help to sort out the existing problems? 
  9. Are you taking the decision to end things out of anger? 
  10. Will a temporary break solve the problem instead?

Answer these questions honestly and then make your decision based on how you feel afterwards. <3

5 things I’ve learned about love.
  1. Love is a choice. It isn’t a feeling; feelings change. Love is the choice you make to be with someone and accept them unconditionally. It’s a connection you feel in your foundation, a longing on a level that you can’t describe and a willingness and unending desire to do all you can for the other person in terms of protection, support, or simply enjoying life. Giving all you are and all you will ever be to another soul is love.
  2. Being in love is an experience. To know that everything you had to go through to get to that point was worth it, is rewarding. To know that you found someone who truly cares for you is comforting. To know that someone loves you regardless of your imperfections is amazing. Being in love is beautiful, invigorating and intoxicating. It’s a breathtaking experience.
  3. To learn how to love, one must learn how to love themselves. Because you cannot give what you don’t have. And you cannot receive what you aren’t ready for. Practice unconditionally love, be comfortable with yourself, accept yourself, be happy with who you are, talk to yourself like you would to someone you love. When you’re ready to love, you’ll know.
  4. Forgiving others who have hurt you is hard, but it’s something that is essential to ones peace and love. There isn’t a time line, but when you’re ready, reflect on the facts, how you’ve reacted, and how this combination has affected your life and when you’re at ease, actively choose to forgive the person who’s offended you. When you forgive, you let go of the negatives surrounding you and by letting go of them, you are able to see things in a different light. 
  5. Focus on the now, let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new love. Not every person you date is going to be the right person for you, but all it takes is one to make you see what you have been missing. You just have to let love develop on it’s own time, there’s no rush. You have nothing to fear, love is wonderful. Just give yourself another chance to be happy. ♥ :)
To the wrong person you mean nothing, but to the right person you mean everything.
There are many people in this world who carry heavy burdens with them everyday and still try to function like nothing is wrong. This is not good and if anyone ever needs to talk to someone, please don’t ever hesitate to ask for advice, prayer, support, or just someone to talk to. I’m here for everyone of you and all your problems matter, no matter how big or small.
Most people need love and acceptance a lot more than they need advice.
Anonymous asked:
I love your music playlist! It's my favorite.

Thank you! <3

Anonymous asked:
How do you deal with people who only come to you for advice but never take out the time to say thank you and or see how you're doing. I feel like I'm always being used and I don't know how not to be nice.

Not everyone will appreciate what you do for them, you just have to figure out who’s worth your kindness and who’s just taking advantage of it and then make the necessary adjustments to distance yourself from those people. I try not to let myself get taken advantage of, and I do have boundaries and limits. In a world where being appreciated is rare, I make time for those who say thank you and ask how I’m doing. And for those who only hit me up when they need me, well I take my time to answer. I think that’s fair, some people take priority over others, especially those who show they care.

There’s a difference between loving the idea of someone and actually loving who they really are.


Life is meant to be loved, loving life means respecting and valuing the lives of others. It’s only through others that we can love ourselves and vice versa. When you appreciate life, you try to appreciate where you are and the people you know. Loving life also means acknowledging that you have a purpose, which I personally believe every one has. It’s realizing that some things will never seem to make sense-that we won’t find the answers to everything. Accepting your personality is loving your life and although character traits can be greatly improved, overall, personalities rarely change. By accepting your social standing, where you were born and the color of your skin, the friends you have, the size you are, you’re already halfway there in the quest of how to love your life.

Accepting certain events, forgiving people and doing good deeds out of love also demonstrates your love for life. The important thing to realize is that a happy life is what you make it ought to be. If you respect and value yourself, then chances are you will make better choices in life. The more selfish and self-indulgent one is, the less he or she loves life. The only way to truly love your life is by acknowledging its purpose. Even though we can’t always figure out people and situations, every single person contributes to the mosaic of life as we know it. Respect and appreciation go together with love. Adding a spiritual dimension to this thing we call life, will make you love it even more. <3

Realize now that you can be happy at this moment for no reason. Otherwise, you’ll eternally depend on conditions for happiness and you’ll remain a victim of circumstances.
Anonymous asked:
So I am talking to someone.. It's been almost 2 mo, pretty short.. I haven't kissed him yet. We connect so well.. However, I do I know it's the right time to make love?

It’s hard to give someone a time line on when they should make love. It’s different for everyone, and everybody will take their own time. I will say though, that when it comes to the point where you two start exploring each others bodies and start doing more than just kissing, you should ask yourself these 10 questions.

  1. How well do you know this person?
  2. Do you trust this person?
  3. If that person decides to leave tomorrow, would you regret it?
  4. Does it go against your personal/spiritual beliefs?
  5. Do you genuinely love this person?
  6. What is your virginity worth to you?
  7. Does this person deserve your body?
  8. Can you speak to each other about sex comfortably?
  9. Have you ever felt pressured, or pushed?
  10. If you chose not to have sex, would this person still be with you?

Really ask yourself those questions, and see what your answers are.You don’t have to agree with all of them but I do think it would give you a better understanding on when making love will be a good time for you. As always, if you feel pressured, unsure, then follow your heart and wait. If he really likes/loves you and wants to have something serious with you, he’ll understand and wait until you’re ready. If he doesn’t understand and is pushy, then you’ll know he’s thinking with his penis and not with his heart. <3

Anonymous asked:
I invested some little time and feelings in a guy. He knows I have a crush on him. He then asked "what are we" and I said friends but I wasn't clear cause I still wanted to get to know him. Now I feel things are diff and he is less interested??

Well you weren’t wrong in saying you two were just friends, you guys were nothing at that current time and to say otherwise would have been to lie. Maybe he thought you guys were more, but if you never gave that impression, it’s not your fault. I think you should just bring up the issue, and explain to him how you were feeling at the time. You can also consider that maybe things haven’t changed, and it’s just your mind seeing changes. In any case, you should talk about it, if it’s something you’re worried about. <3

A guy is only insecure about losing his girl when he knows someone else can treat her better.
Treat her right, and you’ll have nothing to worry about.
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